For this post, instead of writing about the latest additions to my method books, or the most recent piece of music I finished composing, I’d like to write about something different. Now that it’s Pumpkin Spice Season and almost Spooky Season, I’ve been thinking about how at the end of every year the topic of “New Year’s Resolutions” comes up, and usually they are associated with initial optimism, followed by disappointment by around January 3rd. Why do we do this to ourselves? Is it the appeal of a “new year, new me” or is it out of guilt because of all the things we haven’t accomplished so far? I’ve found that the best way to look at New Year’s Resolutions is to not expect to be successful within the first few days of January, but instead to implement them throughout the entire new year. I wanted to share what I’ve done in the past, and what I’m planning to do this year, in order to have success with my New Year’s Resolutions. 

STEP 1: MAKE YOUR RESOLUTIONS (PREPARE AHEAD OF TIME)

I am posting this in September because too often it sneaks up on us and we feel the need to throw something together at the last minute. Brainstorm a list of all of the things you would like to change, remove, or add in your life (at this point be optimistic). Add a priority scale to each of your items, but then arrange them by difficulty, with the easiest to accomplish first (at this point be realistic). Start with some easy things (even if they aren’t that important) in order to build confidence, but also include some long-term goals (some of which you might not even start for a few months). It can be difficult to start new things in the middle of winter when it is dark and cold and we just want to stay inside and keep warm, so start with things you can do at home. Plan to save some of your resolutions until spring when it is starting to get warmer and the sun is rising earlier (like leaving the house at 6am to go to the gym for example). Not everything has to start on January 1 and continue uninterrupted. Spring is still part of the “new year”. 

When I make my list, I think about any previous projects that I should finish first, and which new projects I want to start. I think about any routines I want to start or improve on, like practicing more ukulele, guitar, and bass guitar. Also what I want to do for my mental and physical health, like less time on social media, more time reading books, more time with hobbies that don’t have anything to do with music (building LEGO sets, building puzzles, playing board games, playing video games, and watching movies), more time going outside and taking walks, or at least riding my exercise bike. In addition to how I want to spend my time on my own, I also want to try to spend more time with family and friends: spending quality time with my wife, hanging out with local friends, calling friends and family in Rhode Island, and also flying out to visit them. 

STEP 2: CREATE SPACE FOR YOUR RESOLUTIONS (FILL YOUR TIME WITH HOBBIES AND ACTIVITIES)

I think that this is the most important part of being successful with New Year’s Resolutions. Come January, you won’t be able to cram a bunch of new things into an already packed schedule, you need to make room in your schedule in order to be able to do all of those new things. The best way to do that is to add a bunch of things to your schedule leading up to the end of the year (especially in December) that you can stop doing on January 1st. What fall/winter holidays do you celebrate? What can you do to enjoy them more? What are some things you could do at home (put up decorations, holiday arts and crafts, watch holiday themed TV shows/movies, read books/stories, listen to holiday music, etc.)? Where are some places you could go (apple picking, haunted hay rides, etc.)? 

Here’s what I add to my schedule in order to enjoy the end-of-the-year holidays more. In October I watch Bob’s Burgers and The Simpsons Halloween episodes, and maybe a few horror movies. In November I watch Bob’s Burgers Thanksgiving episodes, but I mostly use this month to catch up on any projects that might have fallen behind and to hopefully get ahead on a few things before December. In December I watch the Christmas episodes of many TV shows including Bob’s Burgers, The Simpsons, The Office, Schitt’s Creek, and Hawkeye. I also watch many Christmas movies, some of which have been a tradition since I was a child (Christmas Vacation, A Christmas Story, Batman Returns, etc.). I also have a number of Christmas-themed LEGO sets that I build throughout the month. Last year I compiled a Christmas Songbook for ukulele and guitar that I use with my students, but I also play at home for fun and with any friends and family who want to do a singalong. 

STEP 3: PREPARE TO START YOUR RESOLUTIONS (THE LAST WEEK OF DECEMBER)

If you celebrate Christmas, the week after can be about getting the last little bit of Christmas enjoyment, relaxing/recovering, or getting some last minute things done before the end of the year. Take stock of all of the seasonal/holiday things you have been doing throughout the end of the year that are about to fall away, and how much extra time you will have as a result. Remind yourself of all of the easy, indoor resolutions you are about to start, and reassure yourself that you are saving some for the spring, so you don’t have to worry about those. 

I like to try to do a mix of finishing any projects that are almost done so that I can get them out of the way, but also taking the time to relax and enjoy my only real time off, before I hit the ground running for another year. 

STEP 4: DO YOUR RESOLUTIONS YEAR-ROUND (FOLLOW YOUR PLAN, BUT BE KIND TO YOURSELF)

Once the new year hits, replace all of the time you spent on holiday activities with your New Year’s Resolutions. Start with the easy ones to get the ball rolling and gradually move to the more difficult ones. Remember that not every resolution has to be completed in the first day/week/month. Also, don’t require yourself to start on January 1st. Be kind to yourself and if you slip up a little bit, don’t get discouraged. The “New Year” in “New Year’s Resolution” should refer to the entire year, not just New Year’s Day or the month of January. 

For 2024 my big New Year’s Resolution was to “finish things”. I wanted to finish my score for the Noghtwing series, finish polishing and posting the rest of my Berklee assignments, and finish some of my method books. I did finish the Nightwing music, and I am almost done with my Berklee music (I have a few more to post before the end of the year). Where I needed to be kind to myself was with my method books. Because of the needs of some of my students, I ended up having to start a bunch of new method books (note-reading for ukulele, guitar, bass guitar, mallet instruments, etc.). While I didn’t reach my exact goal, it wasn’t because I was being lazy, because I still did a ton of work on all the new method books instead. Pivoting my expectations helped me to not feel like a failure. In 2025 I’m planning to actually finish some of the method books that I didn’t get to finish this year, and also start the process of publishing them. Whereas 2024 was about finishing old things, I am mostly looking at 2025 as a year to start some new things. New practice routines, new projects, new revenue streams, new hobbies, and also just looking at how I am moving through life in a new and different way.

I hope all of this has helped in some way, and please feel free to let me know if it has. Good luck with your New Year’s Resolutions!